Given the title, one could be forgiven for the assumption that they are about to walk into a giggling gaggle of femininity. On seeing one standing alone you might question what you thought you had heard and yet you would have heard correctly and I would have spoken correctly. Bit confusing isn’t it? Remember though, I’ve previously said that this would be soooooo much easier if I could merely get you all together and “hold class”. (Easier on my brain cell if nothing else and certainly far more comprehensible!) Now, without misusing Mr. Donne too much, ask not whom the girl is for she is thee.
Ok, that was probably a bit startling and in fairness you “significant other” probably needs to meet them more than you do. That is whose support is needed for you to best get to know them. The thought and knowledge of them have been with me for many years but the timing to speak of them was never right. And, knowing how quickly my head peters out here, I want to go on and introduce them now lest I not reappear for another year or two. The decision was brought about in a recent post by Submissy. (Oddly her posts appear in my rarely read email and yet others don’t. Yesterday it caught my attention so….) I would link to it for reference but such doesn’t appear readily available and any attempt to find it would end the head for the day. For that omission I apologize to the witty and insightful lady in advance. (How can WP, a website platform, have a site so bad? Built sites pre-accident and none were so clunky….) Now, where were we? Ah yes, letting you meet those girls!
It’s not a secret that I’m of a given flavor and that most reading here are it’s equal and opposite. But there are moments where my side has a massive yet poorly utilized advantage. That is as simple as a calm, dispassionate view of things afoot if we are rational enough to stop, look and listen. Amazing what we get to see and in turn use to build a better world for those around us. Among other things we can notice the little girls and submissives all around us. We can then begin to see how to support and benefit them. They can exist all within the big girl in front of us and therein lies the introduction so we’ll start with her.
Wonderful lady, deftly handling the grind at work, the kids needs in the afternoon and taking stock for a grocery run at night. Mighty good in all that she does but let’s look closer. See that giggle as she looks at a funny picture online, catch her looking at the last ray of sunset? Remember the question about maybe watching the funny movie this weekend? Those things all come from the little girl who played quietly in the corner of the big girl’s mind during the work day and sat worried during the stressful meeting. She was remembering the sunset’s pretty as the big girl cooked supper. She’s really hoping you want to watch the movie because she wants to watch it with you while the big girl withdraws and allows her to lead. Now, I could yammer on about this but I think you’re beginning to get it and I still have to introduce you to another girl AND wrap this up while I can still type so let’s meet another…..
This one is the kinky fun little minx who can be a mystery if taken to lightly. She is the submissive girl. She is the one who will come out to play frequently if seen, respected and managed well just as much as she is the one who was voted “Most Likely to Spin Out of Control” in school. That Submissive Headspace Missy spoke of is when both the big girl and the little girl are resting and she is out. The big girl looks on thinking “I can’t believe she is doing that” while the delighted little girl thinks “Oh! I can’t believe she’s doing that!” She is also the one who can take you to that beloved subspace so many want to visit so…..
Now, head is fading and I’m a long ways gone so let me try to sum it up. Doubting this bit is a fool’s chase, I’ve done this too long and in too many lands to have doubt as it has never not proven out. Watch for and learn to see all three. Recognize and acknowledge where you are. Learn to balance their needs and communicate them to the one you love. The big girl handles big girl stuff, the little girl loves the fun and beauty in the world and the sub girl is the thing that makes the overall world of the other two tick. Notice that I did not say every lady was only these three or that this is all I see in ladies. My comment was that, if you’re reading this, I’m almost positive this applies as your mix. If you (and those around you) see them and treat them well then you (and those around you) thrive. Doubt this or skip this and there will be needless spin. Beauty in your day will be missed for no reason other than poor management.
For now I need to step away but please feel free to ask questions as you wish and I shall try to get back soon to address them. Between now and then as the big girl ponders (she’s 70% of the pondering, little is 20% and “No, not I” sub is 10%) have her take little girl to something pretty. Ponder that it’s a 70% little and 30% sub split on the encouragement to do so….., one wants the fun and one wants to follow a wise prompt. See? Told you they were there!